| Location | Wallington Surrey |
| Age | 59 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 6/1945 |
| Date of Death | 16/09/2004 |
| Visitors | 624 since 18/09/2007 |
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This is for my mum Rita who passed away 16th September 2004 to Cancer.
Mum and dad Tom met at 16 and married soon after. She was the love of his life, his tart as he
called her.
They had 5 children Terry, Debra, Michael, Peter and Chris. Also they have 5 grandchildren Tony (
doing far better than we could ever dream off) Aaron ( who did so well in his exams) Jade ( who is
growing into a lovely young lady) Andy (the happy cheekie chap) and last Millie ( your lovely new
grandchild you never saw but I know she would have stolen your heart). Hold on now, your now a nanny
to another new wee one. Chris and Amanda have just had a wee grandson for you the name I will post
soon. I bet your one happy nanny up there watching down on your growing famliy. I now have another
granchild to add for you mum. You very special angel one who is now up there with you.
Mum found out in Jan 04 she had lung cancer and it took hold so fast. She spent alot of her time
from then in hospital. The day she lost her fight will never leave me and it still hurts now the
pain just doesnt seem to go away.
My mum was a special lady. She was my best friend and I sure needed one. I had my 1st child at 23
and Tony was born early and very poorly. Mum was there with me when he was born and my back bone
though his 46 operations he needed. She was there when I was ready to give up. She was the one that
made me be strong. Tony is still poorly and I so wish she was here to help me still.
As I said mum became ill in Jan 04 and in April I found out I needed a liver transplant and was very
ill myself. So hard for all my famliy to see my mum dieing, me not knowing if I would get a
transplant and if I would live through it and a sick child as well. I don't know how my Dad smiled
each day.
Well I got my transplant 27th July 04 and mum by this time was very very poorly but she was not
giving up I think until she know I was going to be ok and look after Tony.
The stronger I got the weaker she did. It was so hard for us both as I was not aloud to spent time
with her incase I got anything for the last few weeks it was only phone calls we had and a few small
vists.
I was with my mum when she passed and glad she wasnt alone she had many loved ones with her.
Mum
Hello mum,
Sorry I have not wrote in a while. I hope all is good with everyone there. How is that cute Patrick doing. God we so wish he was here with us. As you know Pete and Kirra are now expecting another one. A wee sis or brv for him. I know you and he is watching down on them all.
All ok here.
Dad and Mike are doing great and everything seems to be coming together for them. Dad even said to me the other day even you would like it and he was right. Sun bed in the garden and you would be so happy I know. Smiling problem there is I now have your sun bed at the van. Sorry!!
Chris and co are all doing well. Hannah became top girl and we are all proud of her. Baby James growing far to fast. Watch over them for me as thing are all changing again for them and I am sure they will need you to watch babe for them.
Terry and Iz have had a hard time. I am sure Izzie mum is there watching over them with you. Please look after her and let her know how much she is missed.
As for us lot here. Well well well, how things change. As you know I am going through a big change in my life right now. I need you with me to show me what to do. I am happy mum I promise you just need to know your happy as well. I so wish you was here as I have no one I can really talk to about my problems. I know you would be honest and tell me the right thing to do. So tell me please.
Kids are just great. Ton has a girlfriend bless him. Sweet Denise. She is a little love. Well not so little as she towers over him but he is happy. Sweet Jade, mum what can I say, where has my baby gone. She is so grown up. Am I doing all this mum stuff right I wonder. I know I will never be as good as you but I hope I am close.
Mum sorry to ask for more but please show me what I am ment to do right now. What is the right thing to so for me and the kids? They are all I live for at end of day.
Love you mum and wish you was still here helping me.
xxxx
Love you..
Love you mum but cant write to you right now as angry. Why did you leave me I will never know. I will come back tomorrow and tell you a update on all thats been happening. Hope your looking after the cute wee Patrick for us all.
I miss you mum. It really hurts, badly..
I am going. Love you mum.
xxxxx
Baby Patrick.
Hello mum,
Sorry its been so long. I do still come on here just dont aways write as you know.
Will We now know the wee little one your looking after is a boy and he is called Patrick. I do hope he is being good up there with you. I know there was so much wrong with the little chap but I bet he is lovely. I know your keeping him safe until Pete and Kirra can be there with him. Its funny as today I feel more sad now knowing he was a boy and all that was wrong. I just hope your letting him know he is much loved by us all. Very much so. Please give him a kiss and hug from Deb Debs.xx
I hope you have been looking after my kids as well. They are so far away from me right now and I miss them so much. Its been really funny this time as they are more like my mates now and I miss that. I just want to cuddle them and smell them around me again. I even want to see the mess they make. Silly I know as after 5mins of them being home I will be screaming at them.
As you know I have been bretty low lately. There is so much going on and from people I never thought would do this to me. It wasnt ment to be like this. Why do they feel walking over me is the right why to be. Also a silly comment made has been blown up into something so silly. It really hurts me to think they can be like this. Mum please lead me as to what I am ment to do. Right now you know I feel like just doing the nasty thing and pleasing just me Tony and Jade and sod them. Its so hard as I never wanted it like this. Enough said I think as I dont know who reads this now.
Dad and mike are great. Mike is now the proud owner of his 1st place as you see and they are both so excited about it all. Terry is working on the place as I type and in a few months I so want dads life to turn for the better. He needs it. You should be really proud of Mike for doing this and dad for moving on. House work might still be a problem. Smiling..
Everyone else is great. Baby James is a lovely baby. Not seen him in a couple of weeks but last time I did he was so cute. A credit to us all. Chris is hoping for a new Job and Amanda needs to sort out James as work is going to be apon her soon. She is a great mummy.
Well I am off now for a bath. Please kiss Patrick for me and love to everyone else. Miss you mum and its not geting easier. In fact selfish reasons right now its hard and could really do with you here to talk to
Love you loads mum
xxxxx
Transplant.
Hi mum,
Well today 5years ago I got my gift of life. Today has been along day and I really dont know how I am ment to feel.
I am sure you have met my donor, please make sure you let them know how gratefull I am for my gift of life. Without them I might not be here. Please shine down on there famliy today as it will be a hard day for them all.
How is that special Baby doing, I hope your giving loads of cuddles for me as well. I think about them so often. Kirra hopefully will get some answers tomorrow and be able to move on with her life knowing your there keeping her wee one safe.
Love you mum so very much.
xxxx
HIYA
Hello mum,
Well thought I would update you with whats going on. Before I do how is the wee baby your looking after. I do hope there being good for you. We all miss them very much. I hope Kirra gets her letter this week saying what was up. I know you will do all you can to look after the wee one.
Its baby James special day tomorrow, make sure your there watching over us all. It should be a lovely day. Jade is over at Chris's now looking after him for them so they can get on.
It was good news about Ton's heart op I am sure you will keep him safe for me until he is 20 as you know I dont want the op before then. Silly I know but he much get to 20 and then I will know he will be ok. I so worry about him and hate all that he has been though. Why does he suffer so much. Now saying that you know he has really grown up over the last couple of years and doing so well. Better than I ever thought he would. Maybe I should push him more. Get him out there and get him a job. He is so bored being stuck her with me day in and out.
Sweet Millie is so lovely. She has now come into the naughty 2s and doing a great job of it. She is talking so much now and I often tell her about you.
Look after Pete next week while he is on holiday, I know he is driving a long way and it does worry me. Keep him safe and look over Kirra and Millie while he is away.
So come on what do you think of my new bathroom. I know you would love it. It would have been better if I had you to help choose it all for me but I am pleased with how its turned out. My lovely disco floor I couldnt live without.
Dad is fine I just hope he finds somewhere to live soon and can move on from the shop and start taking things easy. It should be his time to sit back and enjoy his life. I so wish you was here to do that with him.
I am fine lots going on in my mind at the moment and I wish you was here to talk about it all. Not sure what to do right now and if I should just go for what I think is right for me for once. I am sure you will help me make up my mind in my own time.
Love you mum and please please show us your there tomorrow. We would all be so so happy.
Give the wee one a hug from Deb Debs please.
xxx
Hi mum
Hello mum,
Well I have been sat here thinking about you and all our famliy today. It was a funday at dads new club and it would have been a great day if you was there. I know what your thinking you wouldnt have been there but down the van but I so wish you was with us all.
I miss you so so much and really need you with me mum. At times I get so sad and just want to pick up the phone and tell you about my day. I cant and it stinks to be honest.
Hope your wee angel grandchild is being good for you. I am sure they are. Baby James is getting so big and I can see Chris in him loads.
Why mum did you have to leave me? Us? I am not ready to let go, I cant..
Look down on Pete and Kirra please and give that wee one a hug from Deb Debs Please.
Love you
xxxx
Pete and Kirra
Hi mum,
Well I am sure you now have the sweet wee baby with you. It must be so hard right now for Pete and Kirra and I just dont know how to help them. What can you say or do when something like this happens.
Please look down on them and gide them through this very sad time in there lifes. Look after there baby and keep it safe until they are there.
I cant write more at moment as upset but will come and talk to you soon.
Love you mum
xxxx
Help us again..
Hello Mum,
Its been a really sad and bad day here Kirra got the news all mothers never want to here today and Pete and Kirra's baby will not be staying here with us. They are going to need you to look after there baby for them. I know you will and will do a great job.
Please mum be with Pete and Kirra right now and look after them. From what I know the baby will be with you on Thursday. Its going to be one of the hardest days of there lives.
They need you there while Kirra has her op and take the wee one and love and look after them. This will be your very special grandchild. I know you will be busy with the baby but dont forget to look after them both and princess millie as well.
This is sure a hard time for them and us all. God in tears now writing this. I will come back and write more soon.
Love you mum and so wish you was here now to help them and us all though this very sad time.
Debs xxxx
Happy Birthday
Hello mum
Happy birthday to you. Hope your having a good day up there with everyone. I cant help wishing you was here with us lots as we all so miss you.
All good down here, everyone is well. Kirra and Millie are now back from there hoilday and had a great time there. I am sure Kirras mum is missing them like crazy now.
Tony had a lovely time away with college but as normal has told us nothing about it. I bet you know more than I do. Jade is doing her exams right now so needs you to look after her and help her do well.
Baby James is growing well so I am told. I have not seen he for a while but hope to vist very soon. Jade is going there tomorrow so she will love it.
Great news on Bills house now. It should all be sorted out in two weeks. It will help dad out so much and stop me worrying so much about him.
Love you loads mum and once again Happy birthday. Love you more than ever.
Hugs and kisses
Debs xxxx
mum
Hiya,
Well well well what do you think of dad I ask you. He fell over is all I am saying. He is fine and does see the funny part of it. I need to sort out shoes for him as that doesnt help I think plus he is going to sort out the other side. He does not want that happening again I know it was all over his face when I saw him. He was so good mum when he was being looked after,just think he felt he was wasting all there time.
As you know baby James is doing great, so damn cute you would not have taken you hands of him. He is a good wee boy so I am told so I am sure your there giving a helping hand. Stay there and watch over them all as we are just fine here. Ok might need you with me and Tony on Wednesday for a few hours but thats all.
Kirra and Millie are away right now so watch over then that they are safe there. I am sure Millie is winning the hearts for to many and her other Nanny will not want her to come home. Look after Vicky as well.
Kids are fine as you see Jade has done a great job in the garden, you would be so so proud of her. I hope she keeps it up so we can start useing it more and Millie can play out there and not in park.
Was you down the van with me last week, I cant believe I love it there so much after all this time being away. Its looking good now and so much has been changed. Auntie Linda is worried about the dog so Uncle Jacks needs to be there for them and let them know whats right to do.
Everyone else is jusr fine here so no need for you to worry about us lot.
Love and miss you more with each day
Debs xxxx
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